How To Stay Safe During A One-Night Stand
One-night stands are increasingly becoming less of a taboo subject, and are being spoken about more and more, particularly amongst groups of friends and social circles. You may have had one yourself, and that’s not a bad thing or anything to be ashamed of.
Whilst it’s perfectly acceptable to want to experiment with your sexuality and with new partners, the reality is that the majority of one-night stands happen under the influence of alcohol when all natural worries and concerns go out of the window. If you’re on a night out and you think you’re about to leave for a one-night stand, or you think your friend may be about to, here’s some top tips to keep yourself, and your loved ones, safe…
Pre-plan your evening
Some people go out with the intention of finding someone to ‘hook up’ with, whereas some don’t but it just happens. Either way, if you give your place a tidy before you go out, you’re going to be more likely to feel comfortable enough going back to your home where you will feel more comfortable and secure.
Whilst planning the night ahead you will want to consider protection. Whether you’re male or female, it’s always wise to carry some prophylactics with you – condoms are the easiest and most discreet to carry around in your wallet or purse. STI’s and unplanned pregnancies are not what you want from a night of fun. And remember, if you do end up making the mistake of having unprotected sex, always be sure to get tested shortly afterwards to ensure you haven’t caught anything from doing so.
Can you walk straight?
If you can’t walk in a straight line, give up and go home. If you aren’t able to stand up straight, the chances are you won’t be conscious for much longer and you’ll not only want to be conscious during a one-night stand, but you also want to be in control of your body. If your circumstances change, or you change your mind about what you are doing, you want to be able to say no and walk away.
Keep your friends updated
If you’re leaving with someone that you have only met that evening, or only know in a casual manner, make sure you let your friends know exactly who you’re with and where you’re going. It’s not hard to ask someone for their address, or text your friends updates if the location changes. Another good tip is to take a photo of yourself with this person and text it through to your friends – that way, should anything happen, at least everyone knows who it is you left with and that image can be circulated.
Utilise smartphone apps
There are dozens of apps available at no cost to allow you to track your phone (should you lose it) or your friends phones. The iOS store alone has “Find Friends” and “Find iPhone”. The first allows you to share your location with your friends, which will continue until you revoke the access. The latter allows you to share your Apple log in details with certain individuals to allow them to log in to your account and again check your location.
Carry your phone charger
OK, so it’s probably the last thing you want in your handbag or pocket whilst going out, but should you embark on a one-night stand the last thing you want is for your phone to die if you need to leave, need to arrange a lift, or your friends / family want to get hold of you to check you’re OK.
These are just some of the top tips for staying safe during a one-night stand, but there will always be more things that you can do to stay safe. A lot of the time you need to have a clear head and a bit of common sense. If something doesn’t feel right, if they don’t look like a particularly nice or clean person, or if you’ve had a little too much to drink, walk away. It’s not worth it.
Found in Sexual Health