8 Things You Should Never Say To Someone On A Diet
At any given time, chances are most of us know someone that is dieting, whether they’re going it alone and making small but effective changes to their lifestyle, or they’re following a diet plan that they’ve either come across or paid for access to. Those who are dieting are going through numerous struggles, not least the mental struggle that has led them to believe they need to diet in the first place, and the day-to-day struggle they’re going through in a bid to avoid temptation and stick to plan.
It can be easy to put your foot in it and say the wrong thing to friends and family members who are dieting, so we’ve come up with a list of phrases that may seem tempting to say but maybe are best left for another day…
“Here’s what worked for me”
This is a tricky one, because friends want to support friends, but please, unless you’re ask what worked for you, try not to go out of your way to tell them because we you may have two very different body types, lifestyles and goals – just because it worked for you, doesn’t mean it will work for them, and they may prefer finding their own rhythm.
“You don’t need to lose weight”
Firstly, someone dieting doesn’t need your niceties – don’t go out of your way to remind them how much weight they have to lose, but don’t patronise them at the same time. Secondly, you don’t see their body the way they see it: you don’t see the cellulite, the stretch marks and how they truly see themselves underneath their clothes. OK, so you may see an ideal body, but you’re not the one that has to live with it, and they need to come to terms with their body and find a way to love it. Support, don’t judge.
“Do you want some…?”
…sweets, cakes, chocolates… there’s always someone offering something naughty and fattening when you’re trying to diet. Where are these people when you’re not dieting, eh? But seriously, if you know that someone around you is dieting refrain from offering them anything that you know isn’t in line with their diet plan. Chances are they’ve seen the treats doing the rounds, it’s taking every ounce of energy and willpower not to devour them all, and they’re just waiting for the temptation to leave the room or be demolished so they can give themselves a pat on the back for resisting.
“Just one won’t hurt”
Similar to “Do you want some…?” this phrase is dangerous because if you allow yourself one knowing it’s not on plan, and it’s also not cheat day, then you may cave and give in to more than one, especially if those around you are egging you on to have more than one. If you know someone who’s dieting just don’t offer them something you know isn’t in line with their diet. If they want one, let them ask or help themselves, but waving it around underneath their nose isn’t fair in the slightest.
“Becky has lost 5lb this week, how much have you lost?”
Let’s clear one thing up… dieting is not a competition. We’re all happy for Becky, but honestly someone who’s dieting doesn’t care how much weight others have lost because they’re on their own journey. It’s worth noting that everyone loses weight at different paces, with so many factors coming in to play such as start weight, health and how drastically they’re changing their diet.
“You’re dieting again?”
OK, so it’s not the first time they’ve tried to diet, but this time is it – they really are going to give it their all and they’re determined to hit their target weight and be happy with their body. What they don’t need is you reminding them that they’ve tried and failed before, as though you’re setting them up for failure before they’ve even begun.
“I thought you were on a diet?”
Just because someone is on a diet doesn’t mean they have to stick to a diet of water, green tea and carrot sticks. In the first instance if they want to treat themselves then we salute them – the odd cheat is great motivation to stay on plan and is something to work towards. Besides, most meals and snacks can be made healthy and clean these days, it’s just about knowing what ingredients to avoid and what to replace them with.
“You’ve lost too much weight”
Unless you’re genuinely concerned that they’ve taken their diet too far, that it may have progressed into an eating disorder or that they have lost so much weight they look ill, don’t say anything. In all honesty you’ll just end up looking jealous, you risk alienating your friend and upsetting them, and they’ll end up isolating themselves to avoid harmful comments.
The best thing you can do when someone you know is trying to make a change to their life, their body and their happiness is ask how they’re doing, how they feel and if there’s anything you can do to help. Just being there for them is sometimes all they need.
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